Did parent’s complaint cause trouble for child?

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I am the mother of two wonderful children. I thought, until recently, that if something wrong is going on in their schools, it was my place to address it.

It never occurred to me that my child  might be retaliated against for this.

In the fall of last year, I received a phone call from a mother who was upset and asked me if my daughter had told me what was going on in physical education. I asked what she was talking about. She told me a male teacher had the kids doing exercises where the boys and girls were rolling over the top of each other. (These were seventh-graders going through puberty.) I called my daughter into the room, and she confirmed it.

She said she even told the teacher she felt uncomfortable with it, and he told her it was good for her.

Several parents, including me, complained. The PE teacher called each parent later that day and apologized. He said he meant no harm and really hadn’t thought about the exercises. I accepted his apology and let it go, since my daughter had played softball for him and I had not seen any other suspect behavior.

Then, when tryouts for softball came around this year, my daughter — one of two eighth-graders to return to the team — was cut. She was good enough last year and worked hard, but all of a sudden, that did not matter.

When I approached the principal, he said he didn’t get into matters pertaining to the ball teams; I would need to talk to the coach.

A lot of good that would do me!

So I guess what I’m saying is, please, mothers do not be as naive as I was. Think when you go to complain, because it may be your children who pay.

However, given the gravity of my complaint, I would do it again. I just would not of let her even try to continue in softball.

I thought we could all act like adults. I guess not!

Mary Fielden